Jennifer Taylor Supporter

In keeping with Gods laws, divorce itself, is not permitted. For God said, Moses gave you the writing of divorcement, to save for the hardening of your hearts, but from the beginning, It was not so. The Word of God, does not specifically mention at what point a ring should be taken off during divorce, but simply states that a letter of divorcement should be given, in the case there is a divorce, after one puts her away. So the putting away, and the letter of divorcement appear to go hand in hand.

April 15 2014 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report

Teresa Wiltz Supporter Freelance writer and copy editor, Christian

The Bible clearly teaches that God ordained marriage as a holy covenant between man and woman beginning with Adam and Eve; however, the New Testament plainly states that there are a couple of exceptions for seeking divorce:

Matthew 19:9~“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”

1Corinthians 7:39~“A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.”

In my humble opinion, based on the below scriptures, I believe that if a marriage is violent, abusive, drug infested, or any other form spiritual warfare waging against each other; the innocent partner will not be held accountable to remain in the marriage. However, if the unbelieving partner wishes to remain married and does not abuse their spouse or disrespect God, then the marriage should continue so that the unbeliever may be sanctified by the believing spouse:

1 Corinthians 7:12-15~“To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.”

I would encourage marital counseling prior to separating or seeking to divorce because through faith all things are made possible by the glory of our Heavenly King. Sometimes we tend to throw in the towel without giving the situation our all. Patience and honor goes a long way, but in the end, it is love that is the ultimate glue which will hold together any two people who are willing to give their marriage a second chance. 

If at all possible, I do recommend that all bases are covered to save one’s marriage before settling for a divorce. And constant prayer is a must. I also believe that divorce is the only reason to ever remove the symbol of one's marital status and until that time, one should keep wearing their ring out of respect for what it signifies. I recommend reading 1 Corinthians Chapter 7 for marital guidance...God Bless~

April 15 2014 • 8 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report

Abbey Johnson Supporter

I believe very strongly, much like Theresa has stated. The Lord has given me a lot of peace simply by reading her answer. I'm convicted by the Holy Spirit that she was exactly on the mark. Our Lord hates violence toward women. Yes, He hates divorce. However, He also hated women being abused. How many times did Jesus advocate for women? There are many. We see examples of what happens in abusive situations, like with Abigail. Please do not ever use the bible as a reason to stay in a marriage, and be beat physically, or emotionally. Some women end up dead because of rhetoric like some of what the gentleman wrote. Ive watched it, as I worked at a domestic violence shelter. Women, I am a God fearing woman. I left my own husband who had gotten scary, and in the end turned himself in because he'd wanted to kill me. He ended up receiving psychiatric help. God told me (and yes God certainly does speak to me) that everything would fall on my husbands head, and that I was innocent. 

I did so much to make it work. Me selling my soul and giving up on the woman God made me, and all the plans He has for me, was and is NOT a good, or wise plan. Let the Holy Spirit lead you. I do agree with Teresa though. Even though i'm not divorced yet, I did already take my ring off. Something about him wanting to kill me made me unable to even function if/when I wore it. 

I will be divorcing him at the end of December/beginning of New Year, once it is possible. We lived in the UK, and I have to have been back in the USA for 6 months before I'm allowed to file.

Ladies, if a man is abusive, you know it. The Spirit will convict you. Don't just walk. RUN.

October 11 2018 • 1 response • Vote Up • Share • Report