Luke 14:26
ESV - 26 If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.
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(Mt. 6:24; 10:37; Rom. 9:13; Mal. 1:2-3; Gen. 29:30-31; Dt. 21:15-17).
Jesus was repeating what He have said to Nicodemus (John 3: 3-7) "You must be born again"; Flesh gives birth to flesh, but the Spirit gives birth to spirit.
In Luke 14:26, the word “HATE” used is translated incorrectly., The word used in the Greek language Is #3404 defined in the Strongs concordance- (from the original writing in the Greek it is “Miseo” (MIS-EH’-O) -To Love Less.
I hope this settles your being perplexed. Remember to love less, puts Our LORD GOD first :) have a Blessed day.